Is "sex tourism" a euphemism for "rape tourism"?

Beneath the fold, a guy describes some details of being a sex tourist in India.

If you are offended by description of sexual activity that is illegal either in India or in your home country, do not look beneath the link. Consider clicking below the fold to be an agreement that you ain't gonna complain about Griff, Your Humble Narrator.

I will assert the privilege of a journalist reporting on a matter of public policy relevance if you complain about the text below. If you don't like it, take it up with the appropriate authorities. I'm just the messenger.

for Kayla

Denial of Service Attack on Erotic Sex Chat (aka Sex Chat Sex Chat)

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setting one's own rules does have a basis in Western philosophy

I want to discuss a quote from AClockwork Orange by Anthony Burgess.

In the book (which became a controversial movie written, produced and directed by Stanley Kubrick) the story is narrated by Alex, a teenager who leads a gang and is basically living the male fantasy life. He has the respect of his peers, he gets money from stealing, he gets sex and he has the time to pursue his passion for music.

This is what Alex tells the readers after Alex's “Post-Corrective Adviser” P. R. Deltoid has left.

Should other people live their sex lives to conform to you aesthetic preferences?

I am going to quote at length from the Tumblr blog, All Women Should Be Like This, the blog entry is, "My Offensive Blog & 3rd Wave Feminism".

I get hatemail, and it doesn’t surprise me.

 The fact is, that what I write is extremely offensive if taken without the understanding that this is about a certain section of BDSM; that it revolves around the sexual pleasure that some of us take from humiliation, degredation, name-calling, objectification and so on. Without that understanding I come off as an evil rape-apologist, massive mysogynist, women-hater and generally the scum of the earth.

fashion fad drives parasite toward extinction

Brazilian Bikini Waxes Make Crab Lice Endangered Species by Jason Gale & Shannon Pettypiece (Bloomberg) Pimping ain't easy, and apparently neither is being a pubic louse in a world where the sexually active don't have pubic hair.

Tao Te Ching verse 13: does it apply to sexual encounters involving humiliation & degradation?

Tao Te Ching - Lao Tzu - chapter 13

Accept disgrace willingly.
Accept misfortune as the human condition.

What do you mean by "Accept disgrace willingly"?
Accept being unimportant.
Do not be concerned with loss and gain.
This is called "accepting disgrace willingly."

What do you mean by "Accept misfortune as the human condition"?
Misfortune comes from having a body.
Without a body, how could there be misfortune?

Surrender yourself humbly; then you can be trusted to care for all things.
Love the world as your own self; then you can truly care for all things.


(translation by Gia-fu Feng and Jane English)

heroin user gives her spin

I recently chatted with a young woman who used heroin. She gave me this quote which I thought was memorable.

Whether you believe it or not, I'm not that desperate. Consider it an indulgence, even if it is an addiction. I don't treat it like something I have to have. I've had no choice but to be in control my entire life. I think I can handle the one thing that makes me feel good from time to time. In fact, I know I can.

exploring one's secret sexual persona

In The Dark Garden by Eden Bradley the love interest, Christian Thorne, lays this line on Rowan Cassidy, the protagonist, right before she agrees (reluctantly) to submit to him for 30 days.

There can be part of ourselves that are hidden. Hidden beneath layers of what we think we should be or what others expect from us. Digging down and discovering what lies beneath the surface can be freeing.

I think the more correct model of human personalities and identities is that we possess multiple identities that are contradictory, but true at different times.

While Christian Thorne's line works for seduction purposes, I think Billy Joel's take in "The Stranger" is equally valid.

Do women want sex less deeper into a relationship?

Study: The longer a woman is in a relationship, the more her sexual desire decreases. Men reported no such decrease. 

See "Why women lose interest in sex" by Jennifer Abbasi.

The term "Lesbian Bed Death" goes back to 1983, so it seems like it might be real.

I think there's something missing in the understanding of women losing interest in sex as they get deeper into relationships.

I think many couples have problems around the sex being boring. Boring sex where the guys gets his nut is ok for him, not so good for her.

The University of Guelph researchers did ask the women if about sexual satisfaction.

Murray added that the self-reported nature of the study could have also skewed the results. "It has been theorized that men may be less inclined to admit that they have low desire as this is considered against male gender norms and masculinity," she said. "Thus, it may be that men are not accurately reporting their level of desire and they may too experience a decrease."

To me it's interesting that the researchers questioned the men self-reporting about desire and not the women self-reporting about satisfaction.

What should Griff call his Tumblr microblog?

Publishing online means having to stay current.

What I've noticed is there is a vibrant community of people whom I suspect will "get" Griff's Cybersex Blog on Tumblr.

Being on Blogger (fka Blogspot) hasn't gotten GCB the attention I believe the blog deserves.

However, I'm not going to abandon Blogger. I'm going to keep this account for text and open a Tumblr account that will be more visual and links to the longer text entries on GCB.

Any suggestions on a name for the Tumblr account?

BTW, this Compete Pulse article dated October 26, 2011 shows graphically how Blogger traffic was in decline and Tumblr was in ascendancy.

"I'd like to compete with my mom, see who fucked better"

I'm working backwards through saved material. This is from December 28. I met Cindy in the Erotic Sex Chat "Family Fun Room". Cindy wants to fuck a guy who has fucked her mother so she can be compared to her mother.

By coincidence, I ran into another Asian Cindy a couple days later, but she had a different personality.

One of the girl's I chat regularly, Bethany, has some issues around her mother.

Happy New Year 2013!

As I said earlier, I'm going to be writing more new entries for Griff's Cybersex Blog in 2013.

To hold up your end of the bargain, you need to leave comments.

Also, I'm going to start posting when I'm going to be on Erotic Sex Chat.

I will be on Wednesday 3:30-4:15 PM Central (6:30 AM in Japan, 9:30 PM UK) and 9:15-10:00 PM (12:15 PM in Japan, 3:15 AM UK).

"I felt worse than pathetic, and at the same time, I kept wanting to talk to you, Griff"

Yesterday I had a chat with Susie, who had given me a sweet tit pic back in the summer of 2012.

I'll post the earlier chats later, if there are requests in the comments.

Susie is dating an older guy, 34 years old. It's sorta working, except that he yells at her in public.

"Griff, please post my picture"

Back in May, 2012, I chatted with this married bitch, Jenny. Met her on Erotic Sex Chat, of course.

I probably have the chat transcript saved, but I'm not sure where.

Jenny's basic story is she's married to a reasonably well-to-do guy. He sells foreign/luxury cars in one of those countries where the poor are very poor and the rich have lots of money. She likes fucking around on him, especially with foreign guys. IIRC, one of the guys sent her back to her husband with cum smeared on Jenny's face and her husband didn't notice.

Recently Jenny has taken to begging me to put her picture on the blog.

blog more, chat less

Writers write. Bloggers blog.

In the new year, I'm going to be blogging more and chatting less.

I do have significant saved material to dip into.

If you are a fan of the blog, leave comments. And subscribe to the blog.

Feel free to ask questions.

Rachel is going to show her therapist the chat transcript

I had an interesting chat with Rachel. I told her to chat the transcript with her therapist. And she has an appointment on Thursday. So I've got to get it posted promptly.

Rachel's therapist recommend she chat online to get more comfortable dealing with men. Rachel has such low self esteem--she was chatting under "uglycunt20"--I had to ask the "Have you been molested?" question.

Another Griff-gets-it-right moment. It was her step dad.

The chat is more pathetic than hot. But I got pics of the cunt, so I figured I'd let you see her in her full pathos.

For the comments: What should be done to guys like Rachel's step dad? And: what advice would you give Rachel?

Jasmine has been idealizing her HS friend's dad who fucked her. Griff sets her straight.

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Caroline squirts after some degradation

The second time I chatted with Caroline, I had her label her dildo.

Is there any target easier that a young woman rejected by her father? Well, in Caroline's case, she was also neglected by her whore mother.

The Introduction

Griff: Hello, Caroline. It's me, Griff
Caroline (Dirty Whore): Hello
Griff: Rebecca, right?
Caroline: Um no, I'm Caroline
Caroline: [age redacted, legal adult] f, [location redacted]

I got a kick out of the fact she responded even though I mistook her for another bitch.

Facebook comments on the future of sex

For Alternet, Emily Empel wrote, "The Future of Sex? 5 Trends That May Completely Transform Our Sex Lives". It's mostly some combination of trite and off base, although one of her central thoughts is probably true: sex will be a growth business. (This is probably an interesting discussion, but not where I'm going.)

Instead I'm going to quote some of the comments on Facebook and respond to them.

JT wrote (7 "likes"):

I'm sure many people will disagree with me - but I believe that prostitution has been demonized in order to disempower women. If women could sell sex at will, then they would become much more financially independent - and laws could be put in place to protect them from abuse and disease.

It seems that the most typical situation around the world is that having prostitution illegal creates a situation where the hand of management (pimps) is strengthened when negotiating with workers (prostitutes).