chat session: woman poses as Dominant Old Guy to cyber "submissive f, 22"

Earlier, I addressed the issue of guys posing as women. Below is a chat where a woman took the identity "Dominant Old Guy" which I've abbreviated "D.O.G." and chats with a woman whose screen name has been changed.

The phenomenon of a woman assuming a male identity to experience sex as a man reminded me of the Ruth Nestvold (Wikipedia) short story "Exit Before Saving" (included in the anthology Science Fiction: The Best of the Year, 2007 Edition, edited by Rich Horton).

In the story, Mallory, the protagonist, works in industrial espionage. Her company has a machine that can transform her temporarily into the appearance of another person so she can break into other corporate offices surreptitiously. But she uses the technology recreationally to go out and pick-up women for sex in the body of a man.

You can see how D.O.G. did below the break.

men posing as women in sex chat rooms and other deceptions

On the one hand, if the person you're chatting with shares the same fantasy as you and s/he is holding up her/his end of the chat, what difference does it make if it's a man, woman or artificial intelligence machine? (The Turing test is the name given to a test where the person administering the test is supposed to distinguish between a human and a computer by asking questions and receiving written responses.)

On the other hand, it sucks to think you have some basis for connection and then to find out you've been played. See more and a couple tricks for detecting fakers and posers, below the break.

creating a survey for people who chat about sex and have cybersex

One of the missions of Griff's Cybersex Blog is to improve the quality of cybersex.

Below I'm going to begin discussion of a research project. But I would like my readers to make suggestions about things they'd like researched.

Traditional media (e.g. print and broadcast) has one central place of producing content and then the whole audience gets the same content. The web allows not only communication back to the person producing content, but communication between the consumers. Members of the audience can engage each other directly, and if people are capable of learning, make each other more knowledgeable.

I would like to survey women who chat about sex online about what makes a good screen name.

But maybe I should start by getting data about who is chatting online about sex. What questions should be asked?

1. Gender
2. Age
3. Relationship status
4. How long have you been chatting online?
5. How frequently do you chat? How many hours a week?
6. What role does chatting online play in your sex life?
7. Where do you live?
8. Where did you live when you were 14-18?
9. What is your Myers-Briggs personality type?
10. Has chatting online interfered with your professional life? Your other hobbies and interests? Your social life, including family life?
11. What is the longest relationship you've maintained online?

Leave suggestions for questions in the comments.

"chat transcript erotic" vs. "transcript chat erotic"

If one does a Google search for "chat transcript erotic" Griff's Cybersex Blog comes up number #2. The Google search for "transcript chat erotic" has Griff's Cybersex Blog at #8. But "erotic chat transcript" has Griff's Cybersex Blog at #1.

I didn't know the order of the terms made a difference to Google.

if you aspire to be good at writing, you need to read

A brief rant: sometimes my screen name leaves it ambiguous as to whether I'm male or female. When a guy hits on me in a clumsy way, I send him to Griff's Cybersex Blog. I figure the guy might learn something. He might find something entertaining. And maybe he'll be impressed by my.

This one guy, don't remember his screen name, said something like, "I don't have time to read."

Umm... if you don't have the time to read, it's pretty unlikely that your writing is going to be any good.

I'm not a great writer. I'm a serviceable blogger and in the top ten percent, maybe even top five percent at cybersex.

But guess what? I've spent significant time reading and writing in my life. If you want to get good at writing, you need to read. Steve Barnes (Wikipedia) had a good suggestion. If you're trying to get good at a type of writing, say cybersex, you should not only read erotica, but you should be reading one level above from where you intent to write.

Rochelle: "Thank you, Griff, for helping me to decide to divorce my husband"

Rochelle is deeply disappointed in her husband's sexual performance. No, it's not because he *needs* penis enlargement. The sex is too vanilla and he's just not trying.

Towards the end of the chat Rochelle said, "Thank you, Sir, for helping me to decide to divorce my husband." I suppose some might take the lesson of this chat (and this one too), as don't let the woman online unsupervised. Probably the healthier lesson is to make the effort to get the sex right in your relationship. And that means making yourself vulnerable by acknowledging to what arouses you.

I think there's something that happened earlier, because the chat starts with Rochelle giving me pictures of her tits. I'm good, but it seems like there must have been some foreplay before this.

Cybersex is the people's literature

One way to look at cybersex chats is that they are like amateur phone sex. And phone sex is about building a fantasy into a story that meets the customers needs. What's the fantasy? How much time (money)? Let's make a story.

Cybersex chats are similar.

Before radio and recorded music, people would be able to tell stories, jokes, recite poems and literature and sing.

Now, there's much less of this. Top level performers can distribute their work cheaply and easily through the Internet.

But we still have an impulse to be creative.

Cybersex chats should probably be considered collaborative storytelling. And it's one form of art that hasn't been professionalized.

Cybersex is the people's literature. People who create good cybersex chats are the modern version of the village story teller.