Ella: the denial of a whore

Ella is so pathetic, I feel a twinge of guilt posting this. But maybe it will help someone in a dysfunctional relationship decide to change her (or his) life.

Last night I was chatting on Erotic Sex Chat and “damaged goods” sent me a PM (private message).

How were you damaged?

Griff: how were you damaged?
Ella: my bf uses me as a prostitute
Griff: how old are you? is he?
Ella: im 18*, he is 24

As I learned in the chat, Ella's pimp owns her. She's totally dependent on him. And she wants to believe that the situation is stable.



What kinda whore are you?

Griff: what kinda tricks he have you take?
Ella: he just brings guys home or takes me to parties where is pimps me out
Griff: how do you feel about that?
Ella: i used to get upset about it, now im indifferent to it

"I refused because i didn't want to do it... but the guys forced me"

Griff: have you been raped?
Ella: sort of
Griff: what happened?
Ella: my bf said that i had to fuck this guy, i refused because i didn't want to do it... but the guys forced me to.. in front of my bf
Griff: did they pay?
Ella: who?
Griff: the guys who raped you?
Ella: they did
Griff: how much?
Ella: i dont know tbh. my bf deals with that... he doesn't give me any money

Nothing says love like watching your girlfriend get raped and then taking money from the rapists.

"When I ran away, I didn't know things would turn out like this."

Griff: when did your mum and dad split?
Ella: when i was about 3
Ella: but how did u guess that?
Griff: you have little to no self respect
Griff: your father didn't care about you
Griff: it's pretty obvious
Ella: i didnt realise it was that obvious
Ella: i ran away from home with my bf when i was 16
Ella: i thought we'd be happy together
Ella: i didnt know things would turn out like this

Other than wanting things to be different, Ella isn't willing to do anything to change her life or her circumstances. No wonder religion works as a tool for controlling and manipulating people. Engaging in wishful thinking (prayer) is easier than talking responsibility and taking action.

"I just dont want to do this anymore; I still wanna be with him."

Griff: how long before he started pimping you?
Ella: its been 2 years
Ella: we've been together for 3
Griff: how long between when you ran away and when he had you fuck for money the first time?
Ella: probably about 6 months
Griff: do you want to leave him?
Ella: i just dont want to do this anymore
Ella: i still wanna be with him

Liberals and Christians want to uplift the wretched. At some point the wretched have to take action if they want their lives uplifted.

Ella's pimp doesn't let her have an email address

Griff: what's your name?
Ella: ella
Griff: ella, you're a dumb cunt
Griff: what's your email address?
Ella: i dont have one
Griff: why not?
Ella: he doesnt want me to have one
Griff: whose computer are you using?
Ella: his
Ella: he's not at home right now
Griff: he has pictures of you, doesn't he?
Ella: i'm not sure
Ella: he might
Griff: look around
Ella: there are none on his computer

Description of Ella

Griff: ella, describe how you look
Ella: im brunette, brown eyes, fair, slim, 5'6

Normally I pump a bitch for more details, but she was so pathetic it was annoying.

"I'm a slave, but he takes care of me."

Griff: does he let you go out with friends?
Ella: no i dont speak to them anymore
Griff: you're basically a hostage, a slave, eh?
Ella: i guess so
Ella: but he does take care of me

How a whore defines being taken care of

Griff: you ever go to the gynecologist?
Ella: no i dont
Griff: you're a whore and he doesn't take you to the doctor?
Griff: does that seem likes he's taking care of you?
Ella: he feeds me, buys me clothes, jewellery and stuff... he's good to me
Griff: you think like a whore
Griff: he's gonna dump you when he gets a new bitch who is younger
Ella: no he wont
Ella: he loves me
Ella: he just needs the money
Griff: which another bitch will provide

"He wont leave me.... I dont want my bf to use me like this anymore."

Griff: what's he doing tonight?
Ella: out with mates
Griff: and if he finds another girl like you, he'll try to reel her in
Griff: you are really thick
Ella: he wont leave me
Griff: well, he might keep you as part of his stable
Griff: why not?
Griff: two bitches can make ore than one
Ella: look you dont know him
Griff: ella, you don't think like a pimp. I do.
Ella: are you a pimp?
Griff: no, I'm kept it in check, but I've come close
Griff: you need a strong man, a pimp in your life
Ella: i dont want my bf to use me like this anymore

"[My pimp] loves me as much as i love him"

Griff: he's not your bf you dumb cunt
Griff: he's your pimp
Griff: as long as you think of him as your bf you'll be trapped
Ella: but i love him
Griff: you are a needy girl. he's exploiting that
Griff: partly how you are and then he controlled you
Griff: but it's not a high-minded love
Griff: it's extreme neediness
Ella: i do need him
Ella: im not gonna deny that
Ella: but he wants me too
Ella: he loves me as much as i love him

"I dont mind helping him out a bit"

Griff: he's manipulating you
Ella: he's not like that
Ella: he just thinks this is the only way he can make money
Griff: he's a loser, eh?
Ella: no he's not
Griff: is he trying to better himself? going to school?
Griff: or is his career path to be a pimp?
Ella: he doesn't go to school and he doesn't have a job
Griff: what's his plan in life?
Ella: i dont know
Griff: do you think if he loved you he would tell you?
Ella: we just dont talk alot about that stuff
Griff: b/c his plan is to dump your ass when he gets a new bitch
Ella: he wont
Ella: i told you, he loves me
Ella: he really does
Ella: and i dont mind helping him out a bit

"I can convince him [to get a decent job]"

Griff: help?
Griff: what fucking work is he doing?
Ella: he will get a decent job
Ella: i can convince him
Griff: who would hire him?
Ella: for now i just have to help him get by
Ella: i'll do whatever he wants me to because i love him

I recently read a bit of Jenna Jameson's book, How to Make Love Like a Porn Star: A Cautionary Tale. There's a couple pages in comic book form that describe the phenomenon of guys managing young women in the porn industry. These guys are typically recreational drug users who pump iron, do 'roids and play video games while living off some porn actress who thinks they're in love. After a few years he dumps the bitch and gets a new girl.

* Normally, I avoid posting ages as it conceivably can be used to help ID the person, but I judged it germane, even intrinsic to this story. And I also suspect Ella is under 18 and lying about her age to avoid getting booted for violating the Erotic Sex Chat requirement that all chatters be at least 18 years old.