I'll post the earlier chats later, if there are requests in the comments.
Susie is dating an older guy, 34 years old. It's sorta working, except that he yells at her in public.
The
opening.
Griff: you avoiding me?Susie : hello?Griff: hey. Griff here. We met on Erotic Sex Chat. You remember me, right?Susie : yesGriff: how are you? how were your holidays?Susie:they were ok im ok [if getting creepy hugs from your relatives is ok, see below]
I have a 34 y/o boyfriend
Griff: you still throwing yourself at men and getting used?Susie : i have a boyfriendGriff: congrats?your age? older?Susie : hes olderGriff: how long you been with him?Susie : 2 monthsGriff: how much older?Susie: he's 34
Griff probes for weaknesses in
the relationship
Griff's relationship advice: if your bitch was raped, you better know the story and get control of her thoughts and the story she tells herself, or it will mess up the relationship. If she tells you she was raped, you gotta listen to the full story.Griff: is he good to you? or are you pretty much his fuck toy?Susie : we do have sex a lot, but we go out tooGriff: does he give a shit about the real you? or haven't you opened up to him?Susie : what do you mean does he give a shit?Griff: you are a young woman with some reasonably heavy issues, aren't you?Susie : yea, but do you mean like he wants to help? or like he doesn't mind?Griff: I'm not saying he needs to help or rescue you.is he interested in the person behind the tits and pussy?Susie : yesGriff: have you revealed any of your feelings about your father? have you told him how you were raped?Susie : he knows i was raped, not how
Using the earlier chat to
establish dominance
Griff: how did you feel after our chat?Susie : not fantasticGriff: go onwhich parts stand out for you?Susie: it was a long time ago, i cant rememberi know how you made me feeli know i read through your blog afterwardsi'm not even sure whyi think i wanted to see other fucked up storiesGriff: did you feel like just another pathetic young woman?Susie: i think i wanted to see other fucked up storiesi felt worse than patheticand at the same time i kept wanting to talk to u
“I did go back to Erotic Sex
Chat [to look for you]”
Griff: was it comforting to know other women made similar mistakes?Susie: a littleGriff: I thought I sent you an email after we chatted because I knew I did fuck you up pretty intenselyyou didn't respond, so I figured you decided to avoid meSusie: its easy to avoid you when your just an emailwell easierGriff: lolyou fantasized about me when you masturbated, didn't you?Susie: i did go back to eroticsexchatbut i never saw you
The “raped + dumped” picture
Griff: did you keep the pic you took for me?Susie: yesGriff: do you look at it periodically?Susie: yesGriff: what does it make you think of?Susie: it makes me think about a lot of thingsGriff: such as...top three?Susie: its better to have a man who tells me what to do and wants meGriff: and?
Humiliation = arousal
Susie: i feel humiliated when i look at itGriff: does humiliation = arousal for you?Susie: yesGriff: explain the first pointSusie: which?Griff: better to have a manwho tells me what to do and wants meSusie: even tho the picture is humiliating and makes me remember everything we talked about, stuff i haven't really talked about sinceGriff: which men have made you feel wanted? unwanted?Susie: it also makes me crave more, and want to talk to youyou made me feel wanted a littlemy boyfriend does too, but only recently
“I'm scared that I'm that easy
to own, that you can just talk to me for an hour and I want to give
myself to you”
Griff: more than any man ever has... I owned you, eh?Susie: its really scaryGriff: you're scared of what you will do, what you will give up, eh?Susie: im scared that im that easy to own, that you can just talk to me for an hour and i want to give myself to youGriff: you respect me, in part, because of what I've done to other bitches like you. Eh?Susie: yes
Susie wants to watch Griff break
a bitch
Griff: you want to watch me humiliate another bitch? break her?Susie: could i do that?Griff: I would like to arrange itSusie: i would like thatGriff: goodyou're [location information redacted], right?Susie:not that [location information redacted]Griff: do you have an excuse for a trip to [redacted]?Susie: i was just thereGriff: lolreally? you have a good time?
“My cousin and uncle are
creeps”
Susie: not really my cousin and uncle are creepsGriff: how so?they try to have sex with you?Susie: they just stare and hug too longGriff: they let you know they want it, but aren't assertive or confident to come out and ask for it, eh?Susie: yea
“Griff, can i please be your
bitch?”
Griff: you want to be my bitch again, don't you?Susie: yesGriff: ask for itSusie: griff can i please be your bitchGriff: what do you want from being my bitch?
Griff establishes the limits
how completely you want to play?how is it going to fit into your situation with your 34 y/o bf?Susie: i dont want to leave himGriff: okI'm not going to ask you to leave himwhat else?Susie: i don't want him to find outGriff: okI'm not going to leave you marked so he can find out
“You were inside my head; you
predicted how I felt”
Griff: what do you want from the experience? as opposed to what do you want to avoid?Susie: i want to feel owned like i did that day we talkedGriff: what made you feel owned? that I crushed you spirit?made you feel worthless? helpless? pathetic?Susie: yesand that u were inside my headGriff: What do you mean by saying I was in your head?Susie: you predicted how i felt
“My boyfriend gets really
jealous”
Griff: have you talked to your bf about the trip?Susie: u mean about my uncle and cousin?Griff: yesSusie: no, he gets really jealousGriff: lolhow do you feel about him getting jealous?Susie: sometimes its scary, i wish he didntGriff: does it make you want to cheat?Susie: no, it makes me afraid of cheatingGriff: like he'll get violent?
The yelling
Susie: but its his yellinghe yells at meGriff: he yells at you? does he not have control when he gets angry?Susie: not reallyits the worst when he does it in publicGriff: he yells at you and humiliates you in public?Susie: its just yellinghe only calls me names at home usuallyand its not all the timeor for very long
Griff gives relationship advice
Griff: right. I once read a book about relationships that had a chapter about "bad news" relationship flags.the author was a relationship counselorand his position was that almost any relationship can be saved, if people want it to workbut he had 11 rules, flags for relationships being "bad news" and one should break up immediately.one, was puts you down in front of your friendstwo, if someone tries to control you in small ways.they weren't the first two on the listbut they were two items.I don't know if these apply in your case, but I would like to offer a suggestion.I think you should tell him that yelling at you in public is unacceptable.He is free to be angry, upset or feel any other emotion.He is free to convey to you in an appropriate and intimate way he's feeling angry, upset or anything else.And in private, he's free to yell at you, provided it's reasonable and appropriatebut yelling at you in public is inappropriate.It feels humiliating on your end. And it makes him seem like he's not the kind of man able to control his temper and outbursts.And unless he's diagnosed with Tourettes, it's something you expect men to be able to do.
Susie makes excuses for bf's bad
behavior
Griff: That sound about right to you, Susie?Susie: i have said it to him, he says hes not yelling at me hes yelling about something else in my directionand its really not all the timeGriff: sigh, of course it's not all the time.Susie: can we stop talking about himGriff: the top two rules were about lying.Susie: in the book?Griff: "Lied about something, promised not to lie about that again and then lied about it again."Susie: i've only been with him for 2 monthsGriff: how many times has the yelling thing happened in those two months?Susie: idk, like 5 times in publicGriff: Susie.Susie: yesGriff: and each time he gives the excuse it's not you he's yelling at, but something beyond you?Susie: no that was just the one time when i talked to him about itGriff: I'm going to give him the benefit of the doubt.he was trying to save face.Susie: ok
Susie is hurting
Griff: has he yelled at you in public again since you talked to him?Susie: yesreally please can we stop talking about itGriff: yes. You're hurting, aren't you?Susie: yesGriff: Do you want to tell me what hurts?Susie: noGriff: do you want me to pull it out of you?Susie: no please
“How come you didn't put me on
the blog?”
Griff: what do you want to say to me? ask me? chat about?Susie: how come you didn't put me on the blog?Griff: It was pretty intense. I wanted to chat with you again before I posted it.[further explanation redacted]Susie: yea, that makes sensei believe youits obviousGriff: you want to be mine, don't you?Susie: yesits your [redacted] that is so appealing i think
“I crave the nasty and
degrading”
Griff: any guy can be mostly decent and I have my flaws.Susie: like you get off on destroying womenGriff: it's the ability to be nasty and degrading during a sexual encounterand then be decent alsoSusie: i crave the nasty and degrading
Sailor gangbang planned
Griff: you'd let me pimp you to a group of sailors for a gangbang, wouldn't you?Susie: lol, probablyi am deathly afraid of aids tho, that is the one thing that keeps me from begging homeless guys for sexGriff: the cool thing about sailors is they all get tested for HIV when they joinSusie: really?Griff: if they got admitted to the Navy, they didn't have HIVSusie: coolok, and now i have nothing holding me back from a sailor gangbangi woke up this morning dreaming about being gangbanged
Susie's father
Griff: how are things with your father?Susie: i stopped really seeing himGriff: is that a good thing?Susie: i miss himGriff: or is it "that's what works for you at this time"Susie: i guess soGriff: how do you want things to be with your father?Susie: its why i was in [redacted] for christmasGriff: you were avoiding your father?Susie: yea
“I never picture myself having
sex that isn't in some way degrading”
Susie: do you ever have a sexual encounter with a woman that doesn't include degradationhow often?Griff: you picture yourself doing degradation occasionally but not every time you have sex, eh?Susie: honestly no, i never picture myself having sex that isn't in some way degradingGriff: look. I'm a horndog. I test a woman's boundaries and it she's not ready to go to domination and the like, I just fuck.Susie: makes senseGriff: you need a man who is willing to work intensely at degrading you, eh?Susie: not always intenselyGriff: lolSusie: sometimes just fucking me doggy style works
“I don't envy guys”
My two cents is that the relationship with the 34 y/o is doomed and Susie kinda knows it.Griff: I mean he's got to work intensely atSusie: i knowGriff: knowing what pushes your buttonsand he's got to plan in advance someSusie: ahhi dont envy guysi like it because it lets me give up a lot of controlGriff: it's work to be on one's game for the same woman repeatedlyyou go to workSusie: thnksGriff: I know I own you now.Susie: thank you, bye griffGriff: bye, susie
Susie emailed the following comment:
ReplyDeleteThank you for posting this Griff. i dont know why i like being exposed like this so much. i'm looking at the pic of me right now and its humiliating because it shows everyone i was raped. not so much because my tits are on display but i dont know why im not more humiliated by that. i dont want to think about my bf, i like being with him even tho he gets angry some times. this makes it seem like its all the time. its not at all.
whats the story about her rape?
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