Is “LaTasha” a loser? Vote in comments

I once read a book about relationships. I feel bad the name of the book escapes me (author too). It has a list of eleven reasons that one should discontinue a relationship. The final reason was if someone gives you the impression they are “bad news”.

The chat below is from a Black bitch who didn't want her real name used, so I'm gonna call her “LaTasha”. This cunt is a complete mess. Yeah, she got raped. But something tells me the origin of “LaTasha” being an emotional mess goes back to before the rape.

BTW, “LaTasha” was chatting under the screen name “blackfatsubmissiveslt33”. Draw your own conclusions.

How fucked up is “LaTasha”? I wouldn't even give her an email address to send pictures of her tits. I never want this bitch to contact me outside of seeing me in a chat room. I just feel like associating with her could lead to her loser qualities rubbing off.

The first few lines of the chat were PMs that happened before I opened a private chat. We join the action in progress.


Where did the rape happen?

Griff: where did it happen?
"LaTasha": well, we were saying bye because the lesson was over
"LaTasha": we used to say bye with a kiss on the cheek
Griff: what lesson?
"LaTasha": the tutorials that he was giving me
Griff: then what happened?
Griff: where were the lessons?
"LaTasha": for economics & statistics

My momma said ladies don't meet men alone in their rooms

"LaTasha": we were at his studio; he used to live close to college
"LaTasha": and there was a quiet place to study
"LaTasha": at first I didn't felt good to go there
Griff: what happened when you went to kiss him?
Griff: why did it not feel good to go there?
"LaTasha": he turned his face & kissed me in the mouth
"LaTasha": well, I didn't feel good to go there because my mom always said
Griff: had you kissed guys before?
"LaTasha": that ladies dont go into mens rooms

You notice how the uptight, conservative social ethos planted the seed that "LaTasha" deserved to be raped?

Virgin "LaTasha's" background

"LaTasha": yes I have had kissed guys before
Griff: you're from one of those "doing well" Black families that is snooty about social customs?
"LaTasha": LOL!!!
"LaTasha": not snotty
"LaTasha": snooty
Griff: how far had you gone with a guy before this guy "raped" you?
"LaTasha": but we have a strong teachings
"LaTasha": kissing & trying to have sex
Griff: he kissed you on the mouth? how did you respond?
"LaTasha": but never went all the way
"LaTasha": I pulled back
Griff: given head? gotten fingered?
"LaTasha": nope. just being touched & licked in my pussy
"LaTasha": kissing & stoking the bf's dick

"He grabbed my head with both hands & pushed me against the wall"

Griff: what was his name?
"LaTasha": but never been fingered b4
"LaTasha": Albert
Griff: when you pulled back, what did Albert do?
"LaTasha": he grabbed my head with both hands & pushed me against the wall
"LaTasha": pressing his lips against me
Griff: how did that make you feel?
"LaTasha": scared

"LaTasha" stayed for her books

Griff: what happened next?
"LaTasha": that was not the person I knew
"LaTasha": I tried to escape
"LaTasha": forcing with nim
"LaTasha": him
"LaTasha": he started touching me all over
Griff: how did he thwart your escape?
"LaTasha": threw my bag & books on the floor
Griff: where did he touch you? how?
Griff: what were you wearing?
"LaTasha": in my boobs
"LaTasha": and in my pussy

The fact she stayed for her books shows "LaTasha" is one of those classy, educated Black chicks.

"He say that he knew I wanted his dick"

Griff: what did you say and do in response?
"LaTasha": I was wearing a shirt & some capri pants
Griff: were you aroused and wet almost immediately?
"LaTasha": I asked him what was wrong
Griff: what did he say?
"LaTasha": and kept on moving my head sideways
"LaTasha": he say that he knew I wanted his dick
"LaTasha": No, I was scared
"LaTasha": I didn't knew how to respond or what to do
Griff: had you fantasized about him when you masturbated before this incident?
"LaTasha": not really
Griff: go on
Griff: what happened next?

"I felt confused"

"LaTasha": he wasnt that handsome
"LaTasha": he pushed me against his bed
Griff: but he was muscular and tall, right?
"LaTasha": and started undoing his pants
"LaTasha": he was strong but not muscular
"LaTasha": he was a normal guy
"LaTasha": didn't practiced any sports that i knew
Griff: he pushed you against the bed... your ass against the bed? or your thighs?
"LaTasha": my ass
Griff: how did you feel when he started to undo his pants?
"LaTasha": i felt confused

"I tried to kick his balls at the beginning"

Griff: how hard were you fighting him?
"LaTasha": very hard
"LaTasha": i never imagined someone doing that to me
Griff: did you slap or punch him?
"LaTasha": I just wanted to run away
Griff: how did he take control of you?
"LaTasha": i tried to kick his balls at the beginning
"LaTasha": he jumped on top of me
"LaTasha": forced my legs with his
"LaTasha": and grabbed my hands
Griff: you were on your back on the bed?
"LaTasha": yes

"Begging him to stop"

Griff: were you screaming?
"LaTasha": not in the begining, just begging
"LaTasha": begging him to stop
Griff: what did you say when you begged?
"LaTasha": i can barely remember

"If u didnt wanted this why did u came into my room?"

Griff: say it to me like you said it to him. type it. say it to yourself
"LaTasha": please dont
"LaTasha": i have a bf
"LaTasha": ive never done anything bad to u
"LaTasha": please no
"LaTasha": and he said
"LaTasha": shut up u bitch
"LaTasha": u thought this was for free?
Griff: yes
Griff: did you start crying?
"LaTasha": if u didnt wanted this why did u came into my room?
"LaTasha": i will teach u a lesson

"I couldn't even cry"

Griff: did you start crying?
"LaTasha": not at that time
Griff: what happened next?
"LaTasha": i was so in shock
"LaTasha": i couldnt even cry

"It felt so scarry &ewwwk"

"LaTasha": he ripped my pants
"LaTasha": after fighting me some more
"LaTasha": i slapped his face
"LaTasha": grabbed his hair
Griff: go on
"LaTasha": tried to scratch his face
"LaTasha": he licked my face
"LaTasha": it felt so scarry &ewwwk
"LaTasha": he finished undoing my pants and panties

"Did he remove your panties?/A little not all the way down"

Griff: how did he get access to your tits and pussy?
"LaTasha": and took out his dick
"LaTasha": while pushing my legs with his
"LaTasha": and grabbing both of my hands with one of his
Griff: he had to lift your hips off the bed to get your pants off, right?
"LaTasha": i don't even know how he managed for that
Griff: [Redacted], you let him remove your capris, didn't you?
"LaTasha": no i didnt
"LaTasha": i didn't do anything to provoke him
"LaTasha": or make it easier for him
Griff: did he remove your panties?
"LaTasha": a little not all the way down
"LaTasha": my pants were in the middle
"LaTasha": he just tryed
Griff: at your knees?
"LaTasha": nope
"LaTasha": mid thigh

"He just pushed himself forcefully inside of me"

Griff: what happened next?
"LaTasha": then, he just pushed himself forcefully inside of me
"LaTasha": thats when i started crying
Griff: were you on your back?
Griff: bent over?
"LaTasha": i were lying on the bed. on my back
"LaTasha": he was on top of me

"I just stayed there, sobbing & letting him use me"

Griff: were you wet when he entered you?
"LaTasha": a little
"LaTasha": but thats not an excuse for him to rape me
Griff: was it sexually exciting to have a man enter you the first time?
"LaTasha": scary
Griff: did you stop resisting?
"LaTasha": after he told me that there was nothing I could do & grabbed my neck asking me if I wanted to die, yes
"LaTasha": I kinda stopped
Griff: did you start rocking your hips?
"LaTasha": no
"LaTasha": i just stayed there
"LaTasha": sobbing
"LaTasha": & letting him use me

LaTasha gets aroused as Griff jerks off

Griff: did you start building toward an orgasm?
"LaTasha": letting him use me
"LaTasha": after awhile, yes
Griff: did you moan with pleasure?
"LaTasha": does it excites you to know that a woman has been raped?
"LaTasha": no
"LaTasha": i cried
"LaTasha": sobbed
Griff: I'm stroking my cock
Griff: how's that make you feel?
"LaTasha": :)
"LaTasha": horny
"LaTasha": abused

"I was just his cum bucket"

Griff: you fantasize about the rape when you masturbate now, don't you?
"LaTasha": i feel like u think i deserved to be raped
"LaTasha": yes i do
Griff: [redacted], come on. part of you wanted it.
Griff: you wanted to have sex
"LaTasha": no i didn't
Griff: your bf was too nice
"LaTasha": i loved my bf
Griff: and your mother indoctrinated you with a bunch of bullshit
Griff: about how you shouldn't have sex
Griff: so you went to Albert
"LaTasha": nooooo
"LaTasha": it is not so
Griff: because he would take the decision out of your hands
"LaTasha": for me, he was like a big brother
Griff: how much of what I'm saying is the truth? 100%? 50%?
Griff: don't tell me 0% b/c I'll know you're lying
"LaTasha": i had nothing to do with his behavior
Griff: you stayed b/c he threw your books on the floor
Griff: you coulda left and returned with a cop or friend later
"LaTasha": he never let me out
Griff: what makes you mad is you thought he'd want you to be his gf afterwards and he just wanted your pussy
Griff: am I right?
"LaTasha": kind of
"LaTasha": what hurted me
"LaTasha": was that after he used me
Griff: go on
"LaTasha": he made me shower
Griff: ok
"LaTasha": and push me out of his room
Griff: yes?
"LaTasha": then, at college, he kept on talking too me
"LaTasha": like if nothing had happened
Griff: lol
Griff: you were nothing to him, eh?
"LaTasha": why r u laughing?
"LaTasha": yes, i was just his cum bucket
"LaTasha": one more
"LaTasha": whether i liked it or not

Albert said people would say I went to his room for sex

Griff: but you did kinda like it, didn't you?
"LaTasha": i came, but that's a natural reaction of the body
Griff: after that your bf seemed boring and not very manly, right?
"LaTasha": after that, i felt sorry for my bf
Griff: why?
"LaTasha": i was scared that he'll know about what happened
Griff: go on
"LaTasha": and Albert told me that if I told anyone, I was the one who'll lose
"LaTasha": because everyone will ask where it was
"LaTasha": and when I say it was in his room
"LaTasha": ppl will say I went there for that

"In the back of my head I wish it to happen again"

Griff: how you feeling?
"LaTasha": now?
Griff: yes?
"LaTasha": very wet & horny
"LaTasha": in the back of my head I wish it to happen again
"LaTasha": over and over again
"LaTasha": would u rape me as well if i were there?
Griff: I know how to break a woman down.
Griff: only used rape a couple times.
"LaTasha": u son of a bitch!!!!
"LaTasha": what do u do to women to break them down?
Griff: I learn about her past. Sexual history. Fantasies. Insecurities.

"Why is it that we feel protected & attracted to guys like u?"

"LaTasha": why is it that we feel protected & attracted to guys like u?
Griff: where you from?
"LaTasha": and we take all and every shit u do to us?
"LaTasha": even we accept u cheating & having other women in front of us?
"LaTasha": I am from [redacted]
"LaTasha": but I come from a military family
"LaTasha": I ve never lived anywhere for long

"You fuckers take advantage of it and then blame us!"

Griff: why? there's something about female sexuality that craves power. And something that seeks to serve other humans, especially men.
"LaTasha": and u fuckers take advantage of it
"LaTasha": and then blame us
Griff: if someone drops a $20 bill on the street is it "taking advantage" to pick it up?
"LaTasha": no, if u r giving it back to the person
Griff: say it's just laying there
"LaTasha": no, it is not taking advantange
"LaTasha": but relationships is something else
"LaTasha": we women r not sex objects
Griff: except you kinda get off being treated that way
"LaTasha": get off?
Griff: that's what makes you feel sexually excited
"LaTasha": shameful to admit it but yes
Griff: that's when you get in touch with your true self

"LaTasha's" shrink says she has self esteem issues

"LaTasha": but why dont u help us to be stonger
"LaTasha": if u say u love us
Griff: I do help my bitches be stronger.
Griff: maybe you've been spending time with sorry ass men.
"LaTasha": why u say so?
"LaTasha": we always do everything u ask us to do
Griff: b/c ain't none of them helped you be stronger.
"LaTasha": no; all of them have abused me
"LaTasha": and humiliated me
Griff: if you want to shape the relationship you gotta realize what he needs as well as what he wants.
"LaTasha": all men wants the same
Griff: do you have self-esteem issues?
"LaTasha": pussy
"LaTasha": so psychologists say
"LaTasha": but what do they know
"LaTasha": they just talk crap
"LaTasha": to make money

"He says he only beats me because he loves me!"

Griff: if that's all a guy wants is pussy then you ain't in a strong bargaining position b/c there's lots of pussy in the world and it's easy to take.
"LaTasha": thats the main problem
"LaTasha": that there r so many bitches on the streets
Griff: if you are going to be more than pussy to a guy, you probably should figure out what he wants and needs besides pussy.
"LaTasha": that we try t make our best for him
"LaTasha": and he just beats us
"LaTasha": uses us
"LaTasha": be with other women
Griff: your father was emotionally distant. he paid the bills, but he didn't have that great a relationship with your mother. when he deployed he was fucking the hos. sound about right?
"LaTasha": some motherfuckers even are able of having sex with other women in front of their wives
"LaTasha": I dont know if he fucked anyone
Griff: bitch, if you are staying with a man who beats you, what can someone else say to you? you gotta leave. and it's on you.
"LaTasha": he was always out
"LaTasha": what about if i love him?
"LaTasha": what about if he says he does it because he loves me?

Griff gives the existentialist speech

Griff: "LaTasha": if I want to have sex in front of my woman, I do it. if it is unacceptable, she's free to walk out the door.
Griff: "LaTasha": then you're a damn fool and you don't deserve any better.
"LaTasha": yes i do
"LaTasha": i do deserve better
"LaTasha": but all men r the same
Griff: saying you deserve better ain't shit. you gotta take action. you know what you gotta do, but you ain't doing it. don't ask others to feel sorry for you.
Griff: all men are the same if you are a deeply fucked-up woman.
"LaTasha": tell me how r u different?
Griff: you gotta deal with your own issues and then you'll be able to perceive the differences between men.

"I gave you my trust. You're doing the same as Albert."

"LaTasha": i bet if u had the chance; u'll do the same
Griff: I ain't never beat my bitch.
"LaTasha": & if i gave u my pussy; u'll take it
"LaTasha": and fuck me & do as all the others have done!
Griff: if I fucked you, I'd work to get you out of my life. you're an emotional wreck. the kinda guys that keep you around are the kinda guys that have kept you around in the past.
"LaTasha": you'll be addicted to me
Griff: bitch, hopefully I'd figure out how fucked-up you are and ditch you at the bar.
"LaTasha": no u would not
"LaTasha": why?
"LaTasha": why do u treat me so?
"LaTasha": i gave u my trust
"LaTasha": u r doing the same Albert did

"I just need to be loved"

Griff: you're a psychological mess. and rather than dealing with your shit, you are trying to make it about me and men.
"LaTasha": i just need to be loved
Griff: bitch, I used you to get my nut.
Griff: I don't want you in my life after this.
"LaTasha": please dont say that
Griff: lol

"You're a motherfucker, Griff!"

"LaTasha": do u do this to all the women u find?
Griff: do you feel worthless?
"LaTasha": if you say so yes
"LaTasha": but I want u to admit that I am good
Griff: you want to please me, don't you?
"LaTasha": that u would love to have a woman like me
"LaTasha": very much
Griff: have you been crying?
"LaTasha": how do u know?!!!!!
Griff: because I'm that good
"LaTasha": u r a motherfucker!!!!
"LaTasha": u r soo dangerous

"If I don't have a man beside me, my life does suck."

Griff: what do you feel toward me?
"LaTasha": and so appealing at the same time
"LaTasha": i feel attracted to you
Griff: what appeals to you about me?
"LaTasha": i feel like I should run away
"LaTasha": but at the same time i live ur attitude towards me
"LaTasha": I love that u will make my life interesting
"LaTasha": and that u will direct me
Griff: is your life boring? does it suck?
"LaTasha": when i dont know what to do
"LaTasha": yes, if i dont have a man besides me; it does

Note "LaTasha's" conjugation of the preposition "beside".

"He dissapeared a few months ago."

Griff: do you cheat on the men you date?
"LaTasha": no
Griff: you dating a guy now?
"LaTasha": nope
"LaTasha": he dissapeared a few months ago.
Griff: what would you change about yourself? your life?
Griff: did he take your money when he left?
"LaTasha": i am sure he's with one of his bitches
"LaTasha": i would love not to feel so helpless
"LaTasha": Only some of it, but he left me so
"LaTasha": some
Griff: how much did he take?
"LaTasha": he's not a bad guy
Griff: lol

"No, he'll come because he loves my pussy"

"LaTasha": he's just a little confused
"LaTasha": he'll be back because he loves me
"LaTasha": and no other woman will do it to him like i do
Griff: he'll be back because he's out of money, ya dumb cunt
"LaTasha": no, he'll come because he loves my pussy
"LaTasha": and me

Denial is not a river in Egypt

Griff: what do they say about "denial"?
"LaTasha": what?
Griff: [redacted], you're a loser
"LaTasha": no iam not
Griff: Denial is not a river in Egypt

It's one thing for a teenager like Ella to be in denial about her pimp. But "LaTasha"? She's in her thirties. She has lived a comfortable life economically. The guy has been gone for eight weeks so it's not like he's there to re-sell her on some bullshit every few days. "LaTasha" chooses to create a reality where she's the victim.

"Bitch, this is going on the blog!"

Griff: tell you what, [redacted].
Griff: I'm gonna put this chat on my blog and I'll have my other bitches give their opinion whether you're a loser or not.
"LaTasha": do u have other bitches?
Griff: yep
"LaTasha": just like my man does?
Griff: he left you! he's not your man.
"LaTasha": yes he is
"LaTasha": this is not the first time he leaves

"When he comes home, he'll make me his woman again"

Griff: What's your case or argument that he's your man?
"LaTasha": he always comes back
Griff: when was the last time you had sex?
Griff: when was the last time you saw him?
"LaTasha": about eight weeks ago
Griff: when did you last talk on the phone?
Griff: and how much money did he take?
"LaTasha": when he comes home, he'll make me his woman again
Griff: where is he living?

"If you are going to put this in your blog, please dont put my name"

"LaTasha": if u r going to put this in ur blog, please dont put my name
"LaTasha": i have no idea where he's living at
Griff: your screen name? or "[redacted]"?
"LaTasha": [redacted]
Griff: what name you want?

Griff: "I should get paid for counseling you"

Griff: if you don't know where he's living, he's probably not your man.
"LaTasha": he fucks me anytime he comes
"LaTasha": and we go to parties together
"LaTasha": and shopping
Griff: Jesus, I should get paid for counseling you. What's your insurance? Where should I sent the bill?
"LaTasha": he's just kind of busy & confused
Griff: "going shopping" means you buy him stuff, right?
"LaTasha": u already got paid! i am sure u came
"LaTasha": u cum

"Griff, I love you so much. I wish I could be your woman."

Griff: [redacted], tell me you love me
"LaTasha": I do, but why if I just met u
"LaTasha": i dont even know u
Griff: say it
"LaTasha": I love u
"LaTasha": sooo much
"LaTasha": I wish I could be ur woman

"Griff, I love you and I mean it!"

Griff: how many bitches you figure your man has said "I love you" to in the eight weeks since he's seen you?
"LaTasha": many
Griff: lol
"LaTasha": but he doesnt mean it
"LaTasha": he just do it to fuck them
Griff: do you mean it when you say it to me?
"LaTasha": he loves me
"LaTasha": yes, very much

LaTasha would dump her man for Griff.

Griff: if I offered to let you in my life, would you cut off your man? no pussy? no money? no place for him to stay?
"LaTasha": yes! if u say u'll never leave me alone

Call me "LaTasha"

Griff: what name you want me to use when I post this?
"LaTasha": any u want, but not my real name
Griff: pick one
Griff: what name do you imagine for yourself?
"LaTasha": what would you like to call me?
Griff: pick something nice and ghetto
Griff: you know the hoodrats you look down on
Griff: b/c you came from a good family
Griff: LaTasha. alright
"LaTasha": latasha

Griff upsets LaTasha by telling her to give his chat to her shrink.

Griff: [redacted], I want you to save this chat and give it to your psychologist.
"LaTasha": what for?
"LaTasha": no way!
Griff: your psychologist has a bunch of work to do
Griff: and your cowardly ass is telling him? her? a bunch of superficial stories
Griff: s/he listens, but you are afraid of being judged
Griff: so you don't own up to the truth.
Griff: your psychologist can't help you with the serious issues if you aren't telling him/her the truth
Griff: how you feeling now?
"LaTasha": do u know what? I am gone!!!! done with you!

"LaTasha": I don't know why i love talking to you

Griff: did I upset you?
"LaTasha": kind of
Griff: I called your bullshit
"LaTasha": u r just bragging
Griff: no shrink or guy has nailed you like I have
"LaTasha": why do u call urself humiliate & degrade?
Griff: because I'm good at it. It's sorta fair warning, so bitches like you can't tell themselves, "I didn't know he was gonna make me feel bad!"
Griff: you love me even more now, don't you?
"LaTasha": i dont know why i love talking to you
"LaTasha": yes i do

"I wish I were stronger"

Griff: you'd like to see me do a bitch in front of you, the way I'm doing you. wouldn't you?
"LaTasha": i dont understand myself
"LaTasha": yes
Griff: you hate yourself, don't you?
"LaTasha": a little
Griff: what do you hate about yourself?
"LaTasha": that i let others use me
"LaTasha": over & over
"LaTasha": i wish i were stronger

"LaTasha's" father

Griff: what do you hate about your father?
"LaTasha": nothing
Griff: bullshit
Griff: he's not "all that"
"LaTasha": but i have no reason for hating him
Griff: but you do, don't you?
"LaTasha": nope; I dont

My father would blame me for being raped

Griff: what would he say about your inability to have a healthy relationship with a man?
"LaTasha": he wil scorn me
Griff: would he be ashamed of you?
"LaTasha": very
Griff: what have you done that he would be most ashamed of?
"LaTasha": letting a man take advantage of me & letting me being raped
Griff: what would he say about the rape?
"LaTasha": he will blame it on me
Griff: because you were foolish? physically weak? emotionally weak?
Griff: because you enjoyed it?
"LaTasha": because I was a foolish
"LaTasha": and becasuse I ended up enjoying it

Getting raped was "kind of" the best sex of "LaTasha's" life

Griff: best sex of your life?
"LaTasha": lol
Griff: was it?
"LaTasha": kind of
"LaTasha": they say the 1st one is unforgettable
Griff: have you told your psychologist about the rape?
"LaTasha": yes
Griff: you go to a female shrink right?
"LaTasha": kind of
Griff: explain "kind of"
"LaTasha": sometimes i feel good but sometimes not
Griff: is your shrink a bitch?
"LaTasha": yes

At this point I started having technical difficulties.