"It's not who you have sex with; it's who you fantasize about."

This is something I got from a gay friend.

Your sexual orientation is not determined by whom you have sex with; it's determined by whom you fantasize about having sex with.

I think my friend gained this wisdom chasing after a male prostitute who made money having sex with men. But given his druthers (and enough money to hire a prostitute himself) he decided to hire a female prostitute and rubs my friend's nose in it.

When should the media publicize an individual's sex life?

When should the media publicize an individual's sex life?

Yes, I'm going to get on my soapbox. If you're here for the tit pics or chat transcripts ... click on the links. The mission of Griff's Cybersex Blog includes covering the plight of people persecuted for their sex lives and to educate (the audience and me).

In two recent cases U.S. newspapers violated the standards of professional journalism. Both the New York Post and Houston Press decided to post stories that were titillating, but failed to advance the public's interests.

The New York Post published a story about a public school teacher, Melissa Petro, who had previously been a sex worker. The source for this scoop? Petro has written about her experience when discussing sex work. See Salon 's "The 'Hooker Teacher' tells all" by Melissa Petro.

Houston Press decided to play HOT or NOT with the female registered sex offenders from Texas' largest counties. See Daily Mail's "Newspaper sorry after its gallery of 'top 10 hottest female sex offenders' causes outrage"

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Both the New York Post and Houston Press ran afoul the Society of Professional Journalists Code of Ethics. Yes, in theory, journalists are supposed to consider if their work is ethical.

Minimize Harm

Ethical journalists treat sources, subjects and colleagues as human beings deserving of respect.

Journalists should:

— Recognize that gathering and reporting information may cause harm or discomfort. Pursuit of the news is not a license for arrogance.

— Recognize that private people have a greater right to control information about themselves than do public officials and others who seek power, influence or attention. Only an overriding public need can justify intrusion into anyone’s privacy.

— Show good taste. Avoid pandering to lurid curiosity.

What was the overriding public need to give high profile coverage to Petro's past work as a stripper and prostitute? Or is Petro's crime her current willingness to speak up for sex workers?

What was the overriding public need to give coverage to a small group of women who were convicted of sex crimes?

This was the first attempt at defense offered by the Houston Press.

I can understand how some people might react to this. On the other hand, it's a way of getting readers to look at the info, maybe get them to realize there are people out there like this and they all don't look like the obvious stereotypical pervert.

Bullshit. To be useful, a warning has to include specific information. Saying the convicted sex offenders don't look like people in mug shots isn't news you can use.

Both these stories also include a certain amount of sexism. If a guy paid his way through college as a flunky for a bookie, it wouldn't be news that later he worked as a teacher. And the sexist angle on the Houston Press story is just obvious.

GCB: mission statement (flexible)

Below the break is the draft mission statement of Griff's Cybersex Blog. It is an evolving document. I reserve the right to emphasize one mission in one entry and another mission in another entry.

On a related note, I reserve the right to change my temperament, views and personality as it suits me. One of the things chatting about sex makes clear to me is that humans aren't the same person all the time. I'll probably discuss this in more depth later.

I do want Griff's Cybersex Blog to evolve into a community. So, I want your feedback on the mission. What do you want to see emphasized? What area do you find dreary? What do you think is relevant that isn't part of the mission statement?

Setting goals: 10,000 hits per month by August 11

Yesterday I decided to get slightly more serious about Griff's Cybersex Blog.

I'm giving the project thirteen weeks to get up to 10,000 hits per month (2,310 in a week). According to Google's basic stat package (included when the blog was created), Griff's Cybersex Blog had 1,483 hits in the last month.

That's a factor of 6.7 increase. I will increase my posting regularity during this period. I will post three times per week: Monday, Wednesday and Saturday. In the last month, I've written eight entries*. I anticipate writing about two or three a day, so there will be somewhere between 24-39 entries per month.

The blog is going to include more stuff than my chat transcripts and pictures of tits. (However, if you want to focus on these click on the tags for "chat transcript " or "Griff bitch ".) I'll explain my vision in the next blog entry, which will be above this blog entry.

What can you do to help?

Encourage other people to read the blog.

I realize most people who participate in cybersex and who read this blog aren't going to post links here on their Facebook pages. But I suspect most of you have a list of people you chat with from time to time.

If you see an interesting blog entry, share it; discuss it.

Leave comments

Many successful blogs have interesting comments sections. Leave comments. Often the people participating in the chats read this blog. If you want to say something to them, post it in the comments.

Become a "follower"

I'm not sure how much info you get. I assume you get an email when new material goes up. And there's probably an RSS for all the blogs you follow.

Suggestions

If you have any suggestions for the blog, leave them in the comments.

* The eight entries in the last month: Chloe & the egg (picture), Share My Girl & the young wife, Lara wants to be a slut, Selena leaves her pimp, Griff is #1, Abigail's tits (picture), LaTasha the Loser and the origin of Sally the Stripper .

Chloe's bf puts egg in her and smacks her ass till it breaks

With Chloe I got the picture and the story of her boyfriend breaking an egg inside her. For the next two weeks she was pulling egg shells out of her pussy.

See below for the transcript. And a picture of what Chloe looks like.

Share My Girl recounts crushing young wife's self esteem

This is a chat transcript between "Share My Girl" (met on Erotic Sex Chat) and me. SMG recounts arranging a swap between himself (approx. age 40) and a husband age 24. The wife reluctantly went along. And well, read the story.

"Once we got together it was very obvious his wife wasnt into it at all"

SMG: i have traveled in the past, with other females...... or to use someone else's
Griff: give me a story that you like to tell
SMG: about her or someone else?
Griff: dealer's choice.
SMG: awhile back, i had a girlfriend who i swapped some... she was more into it than some. i met a guy online who really wanted to swap his wife for her. they were young... and once we got together it was very obvious his wife wasnt into it at all... that she was only doing it because he had pushed her into it

Lara, then: women on blog are slutty; Lara, now: I want to be on your blog

I don't do role plays very often anymore. But chatting with Lara, AnalVirginRP_20F on Erotic Sex Chat, turned into a role play.

This role play combined what Lara was looking for and some stuff from my repertoire. I hope readers find it interesting, enjoyable or erotic.

One thing that's good for my ego is that she goes from wondering why a woman would want to be on Griff's Cybersex Blog to wanting to be on the blog.